The bedwetting years: there was no way to know how long they’d last.

I have been thinking about the years when my older child was constantly bedwetting at night or during naps….

When my son was still a toddler, I didn’t worry about bedwetting because he was still in the common developmental age range of not waking up to use the bathroom.

In those early years, even thinking about using cloth diapers with the extra laundry was overwhelming.  Anyway, I always believed that any day now we would be waking up to dry diapers and we wouldn’t need any diapers at all.

Child birthday, 6 years old
Each year, I thought that this surely would be the year!

Later as the years wore on, I was more anxious that he was was still not waking up to use the bathroom when he was no longer in that ‘normal’ range of development. Thankfully, our pediatrician reassured us that late bed wetting was a hereditary trait that would work itself out in its own time.

But I was also tired in the mornings from helping him change out of overloaded diapers, wet clothes and wet bedding at night.  We were managing, but it was still a struggle.

By the age of seven, I had spent thousands of dollars using disposable diapers thinking that each birthday would start the year when he wouldn’t use them anymore.  Now he was he was wearing a diaper at night that was significantly more expensive because of the larger size.

And I was personally vexed by the ecological impact of thousands of diapers I had never anticipated adding to our local landfill.  I felt that I was eco-conscious in so many other ways, why had I let this consistent stream of waste slip through?

Unfortunately, I was skeptical that I would find a good cloth diaper system without investing in a lot of inadequate diapers. Despite all of these reasons to try, I was still hesitating to make an experimental purchase.

Then a friend told me her husband had wet the bed until he was 13 years old.  My child was still seven.  I paused to finally do the math for the next possible six years.  I was late in investing in cloth diapers.  But thank goodness not too late to make a difference.

Someday you will look back and this bedwetting era will be over.  Making good choices for your child, the environment and your finances can make it more pleasant to remember.

I decided that I had to act in good faith that I was doing the right thing for our future selves. We needed to try a new system. I wanted someone to choose for me, but I didn’t have anyone to ask!  Everyone that used cloth diapers in the early years had long left them behind.

I got online and put the hours in to do the research. After musing over this and that brand, I had to press the button. After seven years of ignoring our issue and wavering on making a decision, I finally made our first cloth diaper purchase!

Thankfully, I was fortunate to find a workable cloth diaper system that would take me through the next year.  When we realized that we had physically outgrown that system, I went back online to do more research and then found an amazing cloth training pant that got us through two more years.

Now in retrospect, of course, everything seems more clear. Now that my child is 11 and is not bedwetting anymore, I feel that I can reflect upon this struggle for answers with a little more clarity and experience and less anxiety and sleep deprivation.

Somewhere out there, I hope that there is a family that can benefit from what we learned on our journey.  Here is what I used to make life easier in the bedwetting years.

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