Let’s get through these bedwetting years together.

I have a child who did not wake up to use the bathroom for 10 years.  He belongs to a small section of the population that enters childhood with a delayed awareness of the physical signals that will make everyone else rise up in the middle of the night, tired as they are, to use the bathroom.

Since last year when Aaron turned 10, he began to wake up at least once a night or hold off entirely using the bathroom until he gets up in the morning.  No more dreams of peeing in the toilet only to wake up to find out he was in his bed. Why at ten?  Who can say?  It was physically the right time for his body to start giving and reading the right signals.

But I remember like it was yesterday…

Expensive childcare. A pile of diapers and money on white backgr
It’s painful to remember the wasted money we poured into disposable diapers.

The experience that we had with night time bedwetting was unnecessarily wearisome and expensive.  I never really believed that it would go on as long as it did and I think that I was slow to even ask our pediatrician about it.

By the time, I had got my head around what was going on and that I should develop a logical strategy to dealing with it, seven years had gone by.

So if you are reading this post right now and you have a child that is starting to either outgrow their current diapering system, or you are looking for a new system that saves money, or produces less waste, you are in the right place. I have been where you are now searching and questioning, too.

And if you are looking for social support and communication, welcome to a site where your family’s experiences and needs are accepted and are understood.

I remember what it was like to search out other families in my circle who either used cloth diapers or knew about a world where older children might require them.

It was lonely and concerning when other families had moved on from diapers and all of a sudden it wasn’t as easy to share information when Aaron didn’t want me to talk about it with other parents.   Maybe your son or daughter doesn’t want you to talk about his or her bedwetting with other folks.  They’re older now and things can feel more private to them.

It’s also stressful when your people in your own family don’t understand.  Maybe they think that bedwetting is some kind of choice and the child is just too lazy to get up.  This did happen to me and it was rough to face disapproval from members of our own team.

But you know your kids. 

I wished that I could sleep like this; I think that maybe it comes once in your life.

For my son, when Aaron was asleep, he was out for the night.  He slept so deeply that it was rare for any noise or light to wake him up once he was asleep.  He just didn’t feel aware of the physical world.

Now that Aaron is 11 years old and is getting up to use the bathroom at night, I can tell you that this kind of comatose, intense sleep will change when their bodies are ready.

But the years in between can be isolating, embarrassing and expensive.

How to deal with sleepovers?  What about leaks at other homes or hotels? Is there a way to save?  What should I say to my child or other people?

Let’s pool our knowledge.

Although bedwetting is not an issue for Aaron anymore, I hope that this physical change that occurred to him at last gives you hope.   The experience of all that we went through up until last year is still so fresh in my mind.

I want to talk about all these issues here on this blog.  I don’t have all the answers; I am not a doctor or child psychologist and certainly every family has their own journey.  But I want to talk about what worked for us and find out what is working for other families.   Together, we can share what we know and experience and maybe make the load we are all carrying feel a little lighter.

I have often benefited from online parenting resources and I would like to somehow say thank you to all those people who posted something helpful that I read and was able to apply to our lives.  I hope that sharing information on this blog can be a way to help alleviate some of the emotional or financial stress of bedwetting, even if parents and kids just find comfort in knowing how really normal and okay they really are.

Please feel free to use the comments sections on the various posts to ask questions and present ideas and strategies. 

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