I have a child who did not wake up to use the bathroom for 10 years. He belongs to a small section of the population that enters childhood with a delayed awareness of the physical signals that will make everyone else rise up in the middle of the night, tired as they are, to use the bathroom.
Since last year when Aaron turned 10, he began to wake up at least once a night or hold off entirely using the bathroom until he gets up in the morning. No more dreams of peeing in the toilet only to wake up to find out he was in his bed. Why at ten? Who can say? It was physically the right time for his body to start giving and reading the right signals.
But I remember like it was yesterday…
The experience that we had with night time bedwetting was unnecessarily wearisome and expensive. I never really believed that it would go on as long as it did and I think that I was slow to even ask our pediatrician about it.
By the time, I had got my head around what was going on and that I should develop a logical strategy to dealing with it, seven years had gone by.
So if you are reading this post right now and you have a child that is starting to either outgrow their current diapering system, or you are looking for a new system that saves money, or produces less waste, you are in the right place. I have been where you are now searching and questioning, too.
And if you are looking for social support and communication, welcome to a site where your family’s experiences and needs are accepted and are understood.
I remember what it was like to search out other families in my circle who either used cloth diapers or knew about a world where older children might require them.
It was lonely and concerning when other families had moved on from diapers and all of a sudden it wasn’t as easy to share information when Aaron didn’t want me to talk about it with other parents. Maybe your son or daughter doesn’t want you to talk about his or her bedwetting with other folks. They’re older now and things can feel more private to them.
It’s also stressful when your people in your own family don’t understand. Maybe they think that bedwetting is some kind of choice and the child is just too lazy to get up. This did happen to me and it was rough to face disapproval from members of our own team.
But you know your kids.
For my son, when Aaron was asleep, he was out for the night. He slept so deeply that it was rare for any noise or light to wake him up once he was asleep. He just didn’t feel aware of the physical world.
Now that Aaron is 11 years old and is getting up to use the bathroom at night, I can tell you that this kind of comatose, intense sleep will change when their bodies are ready.